As a man, but also as person deeply involved in this concept of performance mentioned, I personally think it’s a never ending chase. It’s a game of diminishing returns. In any other moment in history, Britney Spears would not have access to millions of people’s attention nor would Robyn. They would have had to accept that their avenues they could perform at were increasingly smaller. I don’t think it’s necessary to frame this as a men vs women thing. I think that people that need external validation are kind of sad. All we need is family friends and community. And at any other time in history, you simply couldn’t have more than that, unless you had legitimate talent or legitimate fame.
I’ve hated seeing Ai being integrated into social media, but a part of me has loved it, because hopefully it will help some people with “influence” start to realize how insignificant they are. 8 short years ago, influencers competition were other people, now it’s also pixels generated by a machine.
I think that the need to feel sexy, is highly superficial. I think that not needing this at all, is a far better way to age. Being recognized for accomplishments is also a game perpetually fleeting in nature, but in the probable event that someone loses, they will at least still have their accomplishments. Not needing external validation is a privilege that most people don’t contemplate cultivating, but those that do, have my respect and admiration.
Thanks for commenting Zach. I can see some of your points, but I would say that even if the women I mentioned got famous bc they are hot, that doesn't mean that they aren't talented and the world doesn't enjoy their music. We will love these women long after they are dead, even if they got famous for superficial reasons. People who enjoy being seen are just naturally attracted to the performative arts, to theatre, to dance, to music. The performing arts are natural place for people who want to be seen and desired. There is a superficiality to it, but there's a superficiality so to many things. Some people want to watch and others want to be seen and if the stars align then you get to go to a nice broadway show or concert or open mic or whatever. Wanting to be desired is an inherent part of being human, and we probably wouldn't make babies if we didn't want to be wanted. Anyone who doesn't need external validation is probably a hermit or asexual hahaha, no offense to the hermit/asexual community. PS I don't think there is a hermit community lol
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As a man, but also as person deeply involved in this concept of performance mentioned, I personally think it’s a never ending chase. It’s a game of diminishing returns. In any other moment in history, Britney Spears would not have access to millions of people’s attention nor would Robyn. They would have had to accept that their avenues they could perform at were increasingly smaller. I don’t think it’s necessary to frame this as a men vs women thing. I think that people that need external validation are kind of sad. All we need is family friends and community. And at any other time in history, you simply couldn’t have more than that, unless you had legitimate talent or legitimate fame.
I’ve hated seeing Ai being integrated into social media, but a part of me has loved it, because hopefully it will help some people with “influence” start to realize how insignificant they are. 8 short years ago, influencers competition were other people, now it’s also pixels generated by a machine.
I think that the need to feel sexy, is highly superficial. I think that not needing this at all, is a far better way to age. Being recognized for accomplishments is also a game perpetually fleeting in nature, but in the probable event that someone loses, they will at least still have their accomplishments. Not needing external validation is a privilege that most people don’t contemplate cultivating, but those that do, have my respect and admiration.
Thanks for commenting Zach. I can see some of your points, but I would say that even if the women I mentioned got famous bc they are hot, that doesn't mean that they aren't talented and the world doesn't enjoy their music. We will love these women long after they are dead, even if they got famous for superficial reasons. People who enjoy being seen are just naturally attracted to the performative arts, to theatre, to dance, to music. The performing arts are natural place for people who want to be seen and desired. There is a superficiality to it, but there's a superficiality so to many things. Some people want to watch and others want to be seen and if the stars align then you get to go to a nice broadway show or concert or open mic or whatever. Wanting to be desired is an inherent part of being human, and we probably wouldn't make babies if we didn't want to be wanted. Anyone who doesn't need external validation is probably a hermit or asexual hahaha, no offense to the hermit/asexual community. PS I don't think there is a hermit community lol